[Editor's Note: This article was a comment by our Resident Writer Inner Peace in the post "Marian Rivera Knows How To Ignore Provocateurs." I decided to post it as an article in itself to inspire everyone when faced with similar challenges in life. Thanks Inner Peace!]
Hypocrites and jealous people can have a devastating effect on anyone. They can disturb your peace of mind, ruin your relationships, affect the quality of your work or destroy your credibility before others. When that happens to someone with the stature of a Marian Rivera, those effects get magnified a hundred times or more. Petty occurences become major issues; simple words are stretched and given a different spin and pretty soon, she finds herself in the hot seat all over again.
In Marian’s life and career there are so many issues and people fighting for her attention. Some are important and beneficial, others are harmful and insignificant. Over the years Marian has shown personal growth in handling issues and people that don’t produce anything good. She has learned to choose her battles wisely and we have seen how that includes keeping her distance from people that are malignant and troublesome, keeping mum when she feels there is nothing to be gained by talking, and even showing kindness and understanding even though it may be undeserved. These are the marks of mental, emotional and spiritual maturity. These are the things that make her the bigger person and which puts troublemakers to shame.
So I say to Marian:
* Always stand on the solid ground of truth and you will not fall.
* Always strive to rise above pettiness because your life is worth so much more than engaging in senseless bickerings and hostilities.
* When there are opportunities to show kindness to those who hate you for who you are and what you have, do it. Kindness is a great way to put out fires of hostility and contention and has been proven to turn enemies into allies and even lifetime friends.
* Lastly, you are not responsible for other peoples’ behavior, but you are responsible for the way you respond. Show them that you are not only made of sterner stuff but that you are also the better person. There is both good and bad in all people and things – focus on that which is good, praiseworthy and honorable so you will live a life of honor and peace.